THE DANGER OF SOCIAL BLINDNESS AND DEAFNESS.

THE DANGER OF SOCIAL BLINDNESS AND DEAFNESS.

By: Abraham Daljang Maker

Being deaf or blind socially has nothing to do with the natural way of impairment; it’s something that humanity has suffered since its creation. Have you ever heard of the famous phrase, “He/she turned a deaf ear or turned a blind eye?” if yes, then you must know what I am insinuating. We tend to shut our ears or eyes to external voices regarding issues that matter to our emotional well-being. Be it career choices, taking or leaving a job, social or romantic relationships, businesses and many more, in most cases, make us deaf or blind to hear external voices or see the external environment.

Before you choose that course to study, that business to begin, that job to apply for or resign from, and before you decide to commit to that romantic relationship being social or ideological, there are those voices you hear. These voices come from experienced individuals who have learned their lessons. Or that voices that come from the walls to give you a warning signal to step back and listen. Besides these external voices, there are popularly called “warning signs” that indicate that something isn’t right about that career you want to pursue, that business you want to do, or that job you want to leave or take. These signs are called “Red flags.” With social blindness and deafness, these “red flags” or “external voice” become trivial because we’re preoccupied with wanting to be like so in business, jobs, education and relationships. Before we realize it, the whole thing turns into a “half-dried leather rope.” If you tie it on your neck, getting it out when it has tried becomes a tug-of-war.

Nonetheless, there is good news for all human beings, we are the best creators on this planet, with a sophisticated system called instinct. This is an inbuild intelligence that God endowed us with right from birth. This inner voice whispers to us in every circumstance; it guides us in the right direction and helps us avoid the wrong paths. If you are stubborn to listen to your instinct, you end up crying over the spilt milk, but if you consult it consistently, you have fewer chances of regrets. But frequently, our social blindness and deafness go down to dismantle our inbuild system(instinct). So we ignore that beautiful voice, and the consequences are failed business. Failed relationship or forever pain in it, the depressing job that makes you drag your feet daily to and from, that worthless career that does not match your values, and that emotional resignation that makes you regret as soon as you click “send.”

Come to think about this, in addition to social voices and social settings, our inbuild system(instinct) is always 99.99% right in whatever it tells you. If your intuition tells you that it smells like fish, don’t assume it’s an old perfume, take it as it is, and you won’t blame your inner voice. On the contrary, if it tells you that the flower smells awful, don’t tell your instinct that it smells sweet; you must listen. First, listen to experience voices, and examine the red flags before you venture into something you hold dear. Your instinct should be the last weapon you can use or the encyclopedia to consult whenever something feels or doesn’t feel suitable at face value.

Be “a yes-man or yes-woman to your inner voice.